Question:
coping loss of non blood child?
Brat
2010-07-17 10:04:52 UTC
I cared for a baby boy that was handed to me when he was 10 weeks old. I tried several times to get the mom involved(she was 16 years old). She was a friend of my daughters. I was told she had no family and that her mother kicked her out for being pregnant.He was with us for almost a full year,her mother(the grandmother) then decided she wanted him, he was taken from us and given to her. A week later we were asked to let him stay a few nights as he was grieving,not eating,watching the door for us. He was placed back in our life for two three days a week here and there. We saw him on a weekly basis at least. A few months went by and again she gave him back to us as he was sick and wanted no one but me.He had gotten Swine flu. That was last September it is now July,he was with us 11 months again and never staying away from us more then a weekend the grandparents would take him for. I went as far as to allow the mother to move in as she had no home, we still had full care. Bought all diapers,food,everything ,he slept in the toddler bed in our room we bought him,we bathed, fed,and took care of him.We have two daughters aged 19 and 17,we also lost our first born at 19 hours old. This baby may not have our blood but he is a part of us just as much as our daughters. I feel like my heart has been ripped away and worry so deeply how he is coping. They don't understand just how bonded he is with us. I feel the grandparents love him ,but we have raised him. I have loved the mom and treated her like my own child. They promised we would have him a lot, yet its been 7 days and they will not even answer a text message as to when we can have him for a few days. I just got out of the hospital ,i have a blood clot in my lungs and heart problems,last time they took him I had a small heart attack, I feel like I can't even breathe without him, is there any one out there that can make me feel like I might survive this?
Three answers:
norton g
2010-07-25 09:23:54 UTC
Brat - My heart goes out to you and your love for the baby. Think, over and over, how much better the baby's life has been because of how you loved and cared for him when his own "blood" was not able or willing to fulfill their own responsibilities. Think repeated of your joyful moments together with the baby. Now you should contact your minister or other clergyman for spiritual strength and solace. Do NOT forget or neglect your two older daughters; they too need your love and attention. Maybe the baby will soon be back in your life. That is my prayer for you and the boy.
anonymous
2016-09-10 05:38:28 UTC
I'm sorry however this truthfully sounds made up... If you had been at a medical institution they do not ship you house to miscarry, they truthfully do a method to be certain all the tissue is eliminated from the uterus. Also, at eight weeks there would not be that so much tissue and not anything might be nine inches in diameter... The embryo at that factor is best the dimensions of a raspberry and the placenta continues to be very small.
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2010-07-17 10:21:11 UTC
im sorry to say but the rest of your life will be pain. try spending alot of time with your daughters.


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